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Who are these swingers,
and what exactly are they doing?

You just may be surprised.
People have all kinds of crazy ideas about what type of people are involved in the swinging lifestyle.
We decided to give you the straight scoop on who these swingers really are.
People also have all kinds of ideas about what the swinging lifestyle is about, and we at Swing Fun decided we should set the record straight on that one too.
So... if your interested in who swings and what swinging is all about just pull your chair up and get ready to learn.

Who are these swingers?

Swingers come from all walks of life.
It is one group of people that can not really be labeled in any way except for saying that they swing.
Though dominantly white and upper middle class people of all races, incomes, and education levels swing.
In swinging there is very little descrimination about such things.
Estimates of how many swingers are in the USA range from about three million to eight million.
Wikipedia references an ABC News reporter John Stossel producing an investigative report into the swinging lifestyle. John Stossel reported that at that time, more than four million people were swingers, according to estimates by the Kinsey Institute and other researchers.
With a US population of 310,500,000... 4 million swingers in America... That is about 1 out of every 77 people!
If we go with the high end estimate we are looking at 1 in every 39 people.
Take the lowest possible estimate and we have 1 in every 103 people.
That is a lot of people know matter how you look at it!
If we wish to go with the lower estimate of 1/103 = "Swinger", there is virtually no way a person doesn't know at least a few swingers.
If we go with the higher estimate of 1/39 = "swinger", we can assume that at least a few of our close friends swing.
Consider the number of couples you know.
If you know 20 couples and use that ratio then at least one of those couples probably are swingers.

As for getting back to the who part of this.
One good study done back in 2000 by Dr. Curtis Bergstrand, Associate Professor of Sociology, Bellarmine University and Jennifer Blevins Williams also of the Department of Sociology, Bellarmine University came up with some very interesting results.

You can find it here if you wish to check it all out, but the parts I found most interesting are:
From this study -
The averaged typical swinger age was 39 years old.
Was in a current marriage lasting 10.5 years.
Had been involved in swinging for 5 years.

Swingers represent the full spectrum political orentation.
Democrat 31.7%; Republican 27.7%; Independent 27.0%; Other 13.6%
They are decidedly more liberal however than average.

Table 3. Comparison of Swingers and GSS Sample On Political Ideology








GSS Sample
















 Chi Square = 46.14                           df = 4                      n.s.

The study also found that swingers are slightly more likely than the general population to say that they are members of a religious organization.

Where the study gets particulary interesting is when it gets to the Measures of Marital and General Life Satisfaction.
Swinging couples have higher levels of happiness than married couples in the general population.
62.6% of swingers found that swinging improved their marriages/relationships, 35.6% said their relationships stayed about the same, and only 1.7% said they became less happy.
Even among those who said their marriages were "Very Happy" prior to swinging nearly half (49.7%) said they became happier.
Among those with the most unhappy marriages 90.4% said their relationship became happier after swinging.
So... basicaly swinging tends to improve the perceived quality of a couples' marriages regardless of how satisfying it was before swinging.

I found all of that info very interesting.
Again... If your like to read the whole thing you can find it here.

The Swinging Paradigm is another interesting study on swinging.
This 2009 informal web based study gives a lot of insight into swinging.
Using an online survey form and soliciting self described "swingers" 1,376 respondents gave the world some cool data.
Of those respondents about one-fifth of the men and about two-thirds of the women identified themselves as bisexual.
Less than 1% of both men and women reported being homosexual.
One of the most interesting aspects of that data is that online less than 1 in 30 males admit bisexual desires on swinging match making sites.

The average range of ages of both men and women was between thirty-six and forty-five years of age, and the sample was predominantly white.
Less than 1% of the respondents were under twenty-five years of age; and about .3% of the sample was over the age of sixty-five.
If you go to any large club this age range is pretty much what you will see as the dominant age group.
I personaly always say the average swinger is around age 40.

Approximately two-thirds of the respondents were married or cohabiting, while the remainders were single, widowed, divorced, or other.
About half the respondents were in their first marriage, one -fourth was in their second marriage, and the remainder of the respondents reported being married for the third time.
I personaly would say that is a pretty good picture of it, but I would guees that of the hundreds of couples I have met at least 60% are on their first marriage.
One-third of the men and women had been in their present relationship between ten to twenty years, while about 5% reported having been in the relationship for less than one year. One-third of the sample had been married for over twenty years.

The typical respondent had a college education; about two-thirds of the respondents had at least an associate's degree, bachelor's degree, or some post-graduate education.

Swinging satisfaction for both men and women was closely matched in this sample of swingers.
More than half the men and women reported being highly satisfied with their swinging experience albeit close to 45% of the men and women reported enjoying swinging only occasionally. Less than .5% of the respondents said they did not enjoy swinging.

The responses to the question of who first introduced the idea of swinging to the relationship show that more than two-thirds of the men reported having introduced the idea of swinging to their spouses; in contrast, less than one-third of the women admitted to having done so.
I personaly would have guessed it to be a much higher percentage of men introducing the idea of swinging because I have heard it being that way so many times.

About two-thirds of the respondents reported living in either urban or suburban communities with a population density between 100,000 or over 1 million people.
About one-fourth reported living in a rural setting with a population density of less than 50,000 people.

Swingers are every day ordanary people except for the fact that they swing.
They hold regular jobs, and have regular lives.
They are our coworkers, neibors, and friends.
They are... just people of all walks of life.

What exactly is swinging?

If you ask 10 swingers what swinging is you will get 10 different answers.
In general though swinging (or the lifestyle as most call it nowadays) is just a social activity and form of recreation centered around an agreement that all parties involved are open to and wishing to have sexual engagement at some point with other swingers outside of traditional monogamy.

Wikipedia describes swinging like this: "Swinging or partner swapping (sometimes referred to as the swinging lifestyle or simply the lifestyle) is a non-monogamous behavior, in which both partners in a committed relationship agree, as a couple, for both partners to engage in sexual activities with other couples as a recreational or social activity. Swinging can take place in a number of contexts, ranging from a spontaneous sexual activity at an informal social gathering of friends to a swingers' club and can involve internet-based introduction services."

That is a pretty common explanation of what swinging is. You will find such definitions all over the web.
Positively Sexual's swinging info defines what swinging is as recreational social sex, mostly consisting of male/female couples meeting other male/female couples, in order to engage in sex and or other intimate relationships.
That one is almost spot on no matter who you are.

So here is how I would generically describe what swinging is:
Swinging is the act of persuing and enjoying the experience of having sexual relationships with multiple partners, and the social stimulation that comes with it.

As an added note I will say that most sexual encounters within the swinging lifestyle are not kinky.
Flirting that leads to for-play, and then to oral sex followed by intercourse is the standard within the lifestyle.
Kinks and fetishes do exist, but at no higher level than what can be found in the non swinging communities.

Worth a read
The Swinging Lifestyle: What is it? on the health and lifestyle site EmpowHer.
Swinging info Positively Sexual.
Today's Alternative Marriage Styles: The Case of Swingers from the Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality, Volume 3, Oct. 10, 2000.
Advice site Swingers Attic questions and answers.

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Sexis - a provocative sex magazine at EdenFantasys.com

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