Who Should Swing

So you are thinking about it, but you just are not sure.

Ask yourselves these questions.....

1)Is your relationship stable?
To survive in swinging you must have total truse in eachother and know for sure that the addition of other sex partners will not rock your boat to much.

2)Can you conquer jealousy?
Jealousy is normal and most people will feel this during the first (if not all) swinging experiences. It is more a matter of how much you feel and in what form it takes. How it affects you and your relationship is the part that can be dangerous.

3)Are you aware of the facts?
You will be putting yourselves at greater risk of STDs if you take up swinging. Don't fool yourselves that you are not vulnerable. Take precations.

4)Have you thought about possible social consequences?
You may think to keep swinging a secret, but if you do.. know that a chance exists your secret will get out. How would this affect you, and do you care?

5)Do you think of swinging as purely physical? or are emotions involved?
Many think of swinging as something that doesn't include emotion. This may or may not be the case. Just as other types of close friendships can become emotional, so can a sexual relationship. Are you ready to deal with possible heavy emotion with youself or your spouse if it occurs?

We will be adding more as time permits
Until then, check out our Swing book revue for more info.

And also take a look at this.
We didn't write it and we are not sure where we found it because we saved it some time ago, but it is basically what you will be told by any swing club or social dance club proprietor.

BASIC RULES WE LIVE BY IN THE SWINGERS LIFESTYLE

THE GOLDEN RULE "NO MEANS NO" PERIOD! END OF CONVERSATION Anyone may say "NO" at any time, for any reason!  If you are in a situation that makes you uncomfortable, just say "No". Do not jeopardize your happiness and satisfaction with this lifestyle, or that of your partner, by doing something against your will just because you are afraid to say no. Be honest initially, and you will avoid many misunderstandings. Don't forget that people's attitudes change and who knows?  Maybe sometime in the future you may meet again with a different opinion. RESPECT Always treat each other with respect This is a Party! Never be rude or judgmental, because you wouldn't want it to happen to you.  If a single person talks to you and you are interested in swinging with couples only, that doesn't mean you can't be nice to them.  Just politely let them know.  REJECTION (It happens to everyone) DO NOT take personal offense. Rejection is a very personal thing, and it's almost as hard to reject as it is to be rejected. Honesty with each other is crucial. Who knows? You could end up with a great friendship if you handle the situation right. JEALOUSY Deal with it head on! It is a normal reaction. We all feel it sometimes. Remember that this is a physical & recreational pleasure, not an emotional one.  Discover what triggers jealousy in your relationship and work it out together. It may mean modifying your activities, but your relationship together is not worth losing over swinging. YOUR PARTNER IS #1 Let your partner know she/he is number one Arrive together, take time to caress them, touch base often, it makes one feel secure. Honor any and all prior understandings, and always leave together. Above all, COMMUNICATE with each other honestly. COMMON SENSE GOOD JUDGMENT When you are involved in a swinging situation, be kind, thoughtful, and sensitive.  Swingers are people, too!!! SET GUIDELINES Respect the guidelines you set as a couple Communicate them to prospective partners. Open, honest communication is imperative to forming relationships! And please don't forget to respect the guidelines of others. Don't try to "talk them into" changing the rules because you don't happen to agree with them! BODY LANGUAGE Pay attention to body language There is more to interaction than words. Consider the body language of the person you are talking with and it will tell you more than the conversation you are having!  Be sensitive to the person and you will know what makes them uncomfortable or happy and excited. DISCRETION Demand absolute discretion & be worthy of the same Discretion is paramount in this lifestyle! Privacy is imperative!!! Never, ever discuss details inappropriately. Everything you do, everything you see, MUST remain private. We have a saying, "Everything you see here, Everything you hear here, must remain here when you leave here".

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